Becoming a parent often puts a strain on relationships, and part of the problem is that you’re tired and have less time to spend with each other. It becomes much harder to go out together and enjoy the things you used to do. But just as you make time for your child, you should make time for your spouse.
Learn eachothers love language – There are 5: Gift Giving, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Discover yours and your partner’s love language here, and use it to connect with them.
Don’t always talk about your children – there was life before you had children, so make a conscious effort to talk about the many things in life that don’t revolve around your children.
Keep dating your spouse – have fun, be spontaneous, enjoy each other.
Have small and large romance expectations – day to day, try to watch TV together, have dinner together. Occasionally, go to the movies, to a spa day. Always try to do something.
Don’t let parenting consume you – you still have chores to do, you still need to make dinner, you still need to comb your hair. Neglecting these responsibilities may irritate your partner.
Don’t let yourself go – please don’t.
Go out without each other – you should have adult company other than your spouse. It’s nice to catch up with your friends from time to time.
Talk to each other – and listen too. Understand the needs of your partner and be honest with them if you have any issues.
Leave your children alone – sometimes you have to leave your children with people that love them and want to look after them. Don’t feel too bad about it; you don’t have to be so overprotective of your children.
Keep kids bedtime routine the same – as soon as your child can sleep through the night, let them go to bed at roughly the same time every night. Spend the rest of your evening having adult time alone, or with your spouse.
Intimacy – at the end of a long day, it’s also important.
No relationship is perfect, but you have to make a daily choice to keep your relationship alive. It’s worth fighting for.
As always, thank you for reading.