At first, no way. Definitely not. I feared that I had massively disappointed myself and my family.
However, you’d be surprised how quickly people change their tune when they realise you are handling motherhood so well.
If you didn’t know, I was 18 when I fell pregnant with my twins, and gave birth to them at 19.
How was I supposed to cope with twins? Would my relationship with my boyfriend survive? How would I continue my studies? Would I ever have a social life?
I was so scared. An unemployed student living in her mother’s house. But that’s just how it is for some people. It’s up to you how you elevate yourself in the first years of your child’s life.
I knew that I had to work hard, for my children and for myself. Statistics about teen mums had nothing to do with me, they were not my portion.
Even through the tears, the sleepness nights, and the difficult hurdles, I was happy to be a young mum.
I have 5 reasons:
1. The birth of my children forced me to learn some life experiences that I may have never learnt if it were not for becoming a young mother. My time management skills are something I am proud of and I offically have eyes in the back of my head.
2. Less adjustment – at 19, I wasn’t really set in my ways, so I could take on many lifestyle changes head on, and with a pinch of salt.
3. Less pressure – fortunately I never had people nagging me about when I was going to start having children.
4. Endless career options – I’m still quite young, so I can throw myself into my career at any time.
5. Fun! – I have so much fun with my children and as they grow up, I hope I’m always seen as the cool mum because I’m not much older than them.
On the flip side, if I had a choice, would I have waited a bit longer to have children? Absolutely. I had 9 months to grow up and get myself together. But life happened as it did, and I didn’t let it defeat me.
Pregnancy can just creep up on you and you can only prepare so much. Motherhood comes with its challenges, regardless of how put together your life seems on paper, but always make the most of it. You’re doing great.
As always, thank you for reading.