How should I discipline my child?


Touchy subject.

Nobody can tell you how to discipline your child. But we can all agree that when it comes to behaviour, we want our children to be polite and respectful.

It’s much easier to show your child lots of love and affection, but they also need to learn right from wrong, and you will be their best example.

It can be daunting, especially if you fear that being firm with your children will make you feel bad, but in my opinion, not disciplining your child will serve them a great injustice.

So, how may you go about it?

Be reasonable – always bear in mind your child’s personality and age; and take into account how they respond to being told off. This will make it easier for you to “punish” them for more “naughty” behaviour.

Consistency – whichever method you choose to discipline with, it is vital that you remain consistent. As an adult, if you have put a reasonable rule in place, your child should not have leeway to challenge that rule.

Warnings – they are necessary. They allow your child to make a sensible decision before doing the wrong thing.

Same rules for your other children – when you have more than one child, it’s OK to make an example out of one them. Especially as children learn from watching and copying behaviour. Therefore it is important to set the same expectations among your children

Mean what you say and say what you mean – if you lose control, your children may run circles around you. You need to be firm at all times.

Team Mum and Dad – both parents should try to agree on how their children should be disciplined. This will help eliminate only one parent being overly obeyed or overly undermined.

Lead by example – be a role model. Behave the way you want your child to behave, or you will be sending mixed signals with your own bad behaviour.

Other adults – if necessary, make other adults (such as grandparents and aunties and uncles) aware of the expectations you have for your children, so that there is no sudden change in behaviour from your children when they are around a certain adult.

I believe that the earlier disciplainary methods are put in place, the less you will have to use them as your children get older.

As always, thank you for reading.

Leandra

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