At some point, during the first years of your child’s life, or maybe later on, you might find yourself playing the stay-at-home mum.
Contrary to popular belief, it is not the “easy” option, as we should have gathered by now that all aspects of motherhood involve some difficulty. For some mothers, they have the option to stay at home as opposed to go to work. Alternatively, other mums decide to completely give up work for a long period of time.
I’ve seen the best of both worlds; I was a working mum for two years and loved it, however I am now pregnant and being a stay-at-home mum brings its own sense of fufillment.
There are pros and cons to being a stay-at-home mum, but ultimately, you have to choose what is best for your family. Interestingly, what I may call a pro, you may call a con, as the household for every mother works differently.
Lets explore these pros and cons, shall we?
More time with your children – you are around them for more hours of the day and get to witness some important milestones that you may have otherwise missed if you were at work.
No childcare fees – you are the childcare. There are also a long list of local baby and toddler groups (which are free of charge) to stop you from being at home all hours of the day.
Creative freedom – you could start your own venture from home, for example, setting up an online business.
Routine – if everyday has a similar routine, it will become second nature to you and seem “easy” after a while.
More time with your children – this can be both a pro and a con. Your limited adult time may drive you crazy at times but it’s very rewarding to be home with your children.
High expectations – your spouse may think you haven’t been doing much all day, so have a high expectation of you to have painted the walls in his absence.
Uneccessary redecorating –
The house chores become a project. It’s no longer just about washing dishes and dirty laundry. You have “so much time on your hands” so daily, you are scrubbing ovens and windows, rearranging wardrobes, cleaning out cupboards. And then you expect your spouse to notice, which they may not.
To me, the chance to be be a stay-at-home mum has not been taken for granted, as I know that I will one day return to work.
As always, thank you for reading.