When we are younger, we tend to set ourselves life goals to achieve by the time we are 21, 25, 30 etc. but I didn’t do it as much when the twins were born. I was so wrong to think that I should stop having expectations of myself just because I had children younger than planned.
I found that my goals were no longer to satisfy myself, but for my children, my maternal family and my nuclear family. I also didn’t want the added pressure of having to make my family proud, because what if I couldn’t do it?
However, after slowly achieving each personal goal, I gained more confidence and had a cliche lightbulb moment: I have to be positive. Speaking good things over your life and believing in yourself will completely change your mindset and will change the outcome of what you are doing.
If you think you can’t do something, you have failed before you started. So it’s much more productive to just believe that you can.
Life as a mother means a lifetime of caring for other people, so why stop caring about yourself and your dreams? You can be so much more as well as being a mother.
I had to ask myself “When my children are not around, who am I? Am I just a mother?” My greatest achievement will always be my children but I’m proud of the other hurdles I have crossed and am about to cross. Ultimately, it’s those factors that make me an even better mother.
So, to the woman or mother reading this, don’t be so hard on yourself, and always take time to work on yourself.
I salute you, you are doing an amazing job ❤️
As always, thank you for reading.